You know why I write these types of posts?
Because I have a feeling I know just where you’re at right now. You’re probably like I was a few years ago.
You want more for your life. Specifically, you want to make some sort of bold move.
Maybe you want to start a side business, become a writer, switch jobs, start networking more, create something, anything, do something, anything.
Today, I want to talk about how you get to that something. And I’m going to talk about it from the perspective I have right now.
I’ve figured out how to do a lot of different things to get where I’m at today. I learned how to write, how to market myself, how to get site visitors, how to outline a book, how to write a draft, how to publish the thing, how to market it, etc.
The truth? The technical ‘how to’ steps of accomplishing something aren’t difficult at all. In fact, all of the business courses you see available… actually work. I’ve taken them and made money from them. I took the advice from the blog gurus and it worked… really well.
So if all of the ‘how’ information is readily available, why isn’t everyone doing what they love?
If I could attribute it to one word it’s this — confidence.
The problem is bringing yourself to take the steps, not the steps themselves.
You know this because I’m sure you’ve tried something before only to find yourself procrastinating or giving up.
And Why Do You Do This?
It’s not because you’re lazy. You’re not lazy. Every person has that motivated gear in them. It’s just a matter of tapping into it through interests (passion) and habits (people fail to build habits out of fear).
It’s not because you’re a ‘chronic procrastinator.’ It’s because you’re afraid — of the feeling of failure, of getting rejected, of embarrassment and ridicule, of the true vulnerability that comes with really putting yourself out into the world.
It’s definitely not because you’re ‘trying to get all your ducks in a row.’ Those goddamned ducks. People who say they need to get their ducks in a row are really saying ‘I don’t trust myself to get this done and do it well. I’m afraid I’m going to fall flat on my face, so I’ll pretend like I’m planning’.
I don’t need to know you to know that if you’re not where you want to be, it’s because you need to improve your self-esteem and confidence.
It’s no easy task either. You have to deal with mountains of evidence against your case for confidence — past failures, that voice in your head, the little cues society gives you to stay in your box.
So what do you do when you feel like time is slipping away? How do you get out of the loop of self-doubt and procrastination?
How do you become the confident person you envision yourself being? You know, the one you daydream about becoming — being productive, advancing in your career, starting projects you love, crossing bucket list items off left and right?
This is a layered topic, which I’ll be covering quite a bit in the near future, but here are some useful nuggets for you…. here are some of the things I did myself to 10x my confidence since my doubt-ridden, broke, and frustrated days…